The Great Disconnect | Men Rewired
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I believe a gigantic disconnect exists in our minds, really just a mirage-like separation between worlds, the spiritual and the secular. Consider a successful businessperson. I own my own business, and my partner in ministry, Mark, also owns a business. Certain basic principles are required to run a successful business. You have to have a decent business plan. You have to have goals. You try to leave as little as possible to chance. You try to maximize your efficiency by making sure everything you do has a purpose, and furthermore that that purpose serves the business. You want everyone in the organization to know exactly what you’re doing.

Yet the same successful businessperson goes home, and he doesn’t have a clue. It’s as though he thinks everything that he wants to happen at home is just going to happen by accident—that somehow it’s just going to come together. Think about a successful football coach. To get the most out of his team, he has to have a personal relationship with every one of his players. In my own experience, by getting a hold on my heart, my coach got me to accomplish things that before I didn’t even know I could do. Yet the same coach, the one who knows exactly what it takes to build a great team, to get the most out of those players, goes home, and he doesn’t have a clue. He doesn’t understand how to build a relationship with his own child.

God wants to restore a connection in all of our lives. But how can we bring it about? How do we accomplish all that God wants us to accomplish with our lives? The answer is actually based in a deceptively simple principle: The coach has a significant bearing on the outcome of the game. According to an article in USA Today, Bob Stoops, the head football coach at the University of Oklahoma, will receive “more than $30 million from 2009 through the end of 2015.” Part of that is $3.675 million for the 2009-2010 season, with an annual “stay” bonus of $700,000. The University of Oklahoma seems to be convinced that Bob Stoops has some influence on how the games turn out. God has given us the same opportunity to be the coach in our families. God wants us to set the agenda, to write the plays, to call the plays, and to lead our families to victory.

Remember, Proverbs 29:18 says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” According to this verse, you have to have a vision to even survive. That seems like an extreme statement to make, so let’s explore what it could mean. Your family vision will serve you as a compass. You most need a compass when there are no landmarks in sight, or when it’s absolutely dark. But your family vision doesn’t only serve you; it will act as a compass for your future generations as well. They’ll be able to look to that family vision and find direction for what God has called them to do. The vision God gives to you will resonate inside their very DNA. Your family vision will also act as a rudder. A rudder is the paddle-shaped control that typically hangs underneath a ship, near the rear of the hull. It controls the direction of the ship. In comparison with the rest of a ship, the rudder is very small. And yet it sets the course for the entire ship. No matter how the wind is blowing, your family vision statement will become a rudder for the children’s, children’s children in your family. Your family vision will also act as a telescope. Your family will be able to look off into the distant future through that telescope and see what you envisioned for them. Future generations will look into your telescope, and they’ll be able to see the mental picture that God gave you, for what He has called them to accomplish.

If you are young and single, I challenge you to begin praying for your future spouse. If you are married with no children, begin a dialog with your spouse about a vision for your family. If you are married with children of any age, talk about what they think your family’s top core values are. Write down a few stories of why they are your core values. Then begin asking God to give you a family vision based on those values. Your values are the WHY behind your vision, and when your WHY is big enough, you will figure out HOW!

Who, then, is this person that fears the Lord? He is the one whom the Lord will teach which path to choose. He will enjoy good things in life, and his descendants will inherit the land. Psalm 25:12-13

Praise the LORD! Happy is the person who honors the LORD, who takes pleasure in obeying his commands. The good man’s children will be powerful in the land; his descendants will be blessed. His family will be wealthy and rich, and he will be prosperous forever. Psalm 112:1-3

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