I confess I love to be in control. In fact most guys love to be in control. When we are in control, we experience a sense of security. Control translates, for guys, the assurance of living victoriously. And victorious living equates to a life of worth. Guys are by nature not only controllers but fixers. When we cannot fix something we suffer defeat and feel things are out of our control. Any kind of defeat or loss of control, we equate to being a person who is a failure and therefore we sense a lack self-worth. We feel we have let others down because we could not fix or successfully navigate the difficulty. So this leads us to the strong conclusion we must be in control. We think by being in control we can determine a positive outcome and thus assures us of victory. And victory translates into good healthy self-worth. We must be in control, so failure is not an option. Life, unfortunately, is not always controllable!
What happens when the wheels come off? What happens when we find ourselves dealing with out of control events of life? What happens when we cannot control the events or the outcome? What happens when we don’t have answers? What happens when we face defeat and failure? What happens when we are faced with some of the life’s most common issues? Issues like:
- Financial difficulties
- Marital disharmony
- Family disappointments
- Job setbacks
- Relational Issues
These are just a few of the possible issues we sometimes experience that are out of our control. And most of the time we do not know how to fix or get a handle on them. Much less be victorious as we navigate through them. Is there a purpose in the midst of these trials? The answer is yes!
The book of James tells us, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds” (James 1:2). Why would James tell us to consider it a joyful experience when the wheels of life come off and we find ourselves unable to change our circumstances much less be victorious? The answer to this and many other questions you might have about dealing with adversity and trials of many kinds in your life will be discussed at this year’s REWIRED Men’s Retreat during the Truth Track on “Advancing Through Adversity”.
We will combine God’s truths with personal experiences to understand what God is in the process of teaching us through the adversity He has allowed to intersect our lives. We will not have definitive answers to every issue, but hopefully we can learn to benefit from the principles we can apply to these too often out of control moments. God’s purpose is not to make life miserable for us, but to begin to develop His character in us. Our goal will be to explore the motive and purpose behind the adversity we experience so often in our lives.
Where will this happen? It will happen this year at the REWIRED Men’s Retreat, April 29-30, 2016. We will have four sessions throughout the weekend to begin to learn how to ADVANCE THROUGH ADVERSITY. Looking forward to seeing you there!