Featured-CodyBCody Blog - Cell PhoneNow writing this I understand there are many more reasons why porn is effective at destroying your sex life, but these are the top four I see on a regular basis:

1) Porn creates a false reality of what sex was created to be

Porn wants to establish a belief in the viewer that this type of sexual encounter is what you “need” to be fulfilled. Porn tricks the viewer to think that the type of sexual encounter you’re watching on your phone or TV is possible in a healthy relationship. And that couldn’t be further from the truth. There is no woman on the planet who longs to be treated like those women in the porn industry. If you don’t believe it, check out this article: https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/top-googled-porn-star-exits-industry-reveals-shocking-truth-about-life-on-t

God has created sex to be enjoyed, inside a marriage covenant, between a man and a woman. God longs for all of us to be satisfied by His love more than our lust for sex, and He longs for men to treat women with the respect they deserve. And when we walk in the Spirit in every area of our lives, there is nothing more fulfilling. So if you’re struggling with the power of porn’s addictive power I challenge you to reach out to a man in your church. This is the heart of the SOULCON brotherhood I teach.

2) Porn tricks us to believe that sex doesn’t have to do with the human soul

Before I submitted my life to the Lord when I was 18 I partied hard. I did what most lost teens do. And it seemed like the deeper I got in the partying lifestyle the more I wanted to believe the lie that sex doesn’t impact the human soul. But it does. Every time. So every time you watch a “little porn” because your wife just doesn’t understand your need for sex, those viewings are constantly warring against your soul. Those “little” viewings are allowing the demonic realm to come in and steal the Truth about sexual intimacy in your heart, kill your relationship with your wife or future wife, and destroy your connection with the Holy Spirit. Satan knows the more condemnation you feel, the more disconnected you live from the unconditional love of the Spirit.

3) Watching porn doesn’t take commitment or investment 

After almost 10 years of being married to the most incredible woman on the planet, I still get tempted by the “ease” of pornography. I mean, I don’t have to romance my phone, I don’t have to “warm up” the porn on my phone and I don’t have to face rejection if my phone isn’t in the “mood.” Porn is there, ready to accept my lust in the moment with just a few clicks. If it wasn’t for my passion to walk in extremely transparent accountability with other men, I would struggle with porn. But, I cannot access porn on any device I have. I don’t allow that temptation to have any power in my life. And please hear me, it will always be a temptation. So guard yourself in your strong moments so you can flee in your weak moments. We need each other to remind ourselves that there is nothing sweeter than keeping a pure heart with the Lord.

4)  Porn makes you think sex is something to hide from God

One of the biggest lies in this world is that God doesn’t understand how sexual men are. If we believe in those lies we start to look for this fallen world to fulfill a need that God created us with. And we know that never ends well. God knows how incredible good sex is, He created it! But He also knows the only path to a healthy, fulfilling sex life. If we try to live outside of God’s Word and then ask Him to bless us, we ask the King of kings to break His Word for us…and the answer is the same every time. So what we need to do is learn to submit to God’s perfect Word, ask Him to help us with the passion He gave us for sex, and the commit to living a SOULCON (mind will and emotions in control of the Spirit moment by moment) life for Him in every area.

Please always remember, God longs for you to walk in the joy He has planned for you, but He will not break His Word for anyone. He allowed His own Son to be crucified, separated from a relationship with Him, and killed to fulfill His Word. So in His mercy He will allow you to struggle with addiction if you walk outside of His covering. And if you’re there…PLEASE don’t stay there. We all suck without Jesus and we all sin at times. Just contact a brother in the Lord and confess today. Walk in the joy and freedom God has for you and RUN from the lusts of this world.

“If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word is not in us.”

1 John 1:8-10 NIV

God Bless!
Cody Bobay
soulconchallenge.com